The “giving word” ceremony takes place at Soraya’s parents’ house. Amir is happy when Baba tells him that this is the happiest day of his life. A great deal of this chapter is about the customs and culture surrounding Afghan ceremonies. Hosseini explains the significance of these ceremonies. Note that Soraya’s character allows Hosseini to discuss the role of women in Afghan society. Her treatment from the Afghan community highlights the double standards applies to men and women in that community.
Soraya decides that she and Amir will move in with Baba so that she can dedicate herself to his care in his final days. Baba dies and many people mourn his death. When the mourners offer Amir their sympathies, he realises that much of who he is has been defined by Baba and the marks he made on people’s lives. Amir knows that he must know find his own path and he is scared.
“How much of who I was, what I was, had been defined by Baba and the marks he had left on people’s lives. My whole life, I had been ‘Baba’s son’. Now he was gone. Baba couldn’t show me the way anymore; I’d have to find it on my own.”
Amir attends San Jose State University where he studies English and Soraya continues teaching studies, a decision that her father constantly criticises. In 1988 Amir learns that his book is going to be published. Soraya and Amir are elated and Amir wishes that Baba could have seen what he has achieved. Amir reflects on his success and he wonders whether he deserves it.
Amir and Soraya begin trying to have a child but they have no luck. Amir’s guilt about Hassan resurfaces and he feels that maybe they can’t have children because “perhaps something, someone, somewhere, has decided to deny me fatherhood for the things I had done.” As he lies in bed he feels “the emptiness in Soraya’s womb” and it “sleeps between (them) like a newborn child.”
Chapter 13 is really at the mid-point of the novel. This chapter is important for Amir because he crosses from adolescence to adulthood. In a very short time he is married, Baba dies and his first novel is published. Amir meets Soraya and he discovers the ‘tenderness of a woman’. We see that Hassan is never far from his mind, which foreshadows that he will someday atone for what he has done to him as Amir will never really be a man until he shows moral courage.